Female Ego - Part 2

Today I came across another type of female ego. Yup. Another type.
This type is not exactly typical of only women, but men too have it in great amount. But women have it of a different type.
For example.
A friend of mine, lets call her ABC, posted something on a social networking site. What she wanted to convey was "MEN ARE POLYGAMOUS IN NATURE AND GENERALLY NOT HOOKED TO JUST ONE WOMAN". Well absolutely correct stuff except that this she wanted to say through an analogue. The following is the analogue she used.

"Men are like Bluetooth: He is connected to you when you are nearby, but searches for other devices when you are away...Women are like Wi-Fi: She sees all available devices but connects to the strongest one..."

Well what she wanted to say was ok, but what she ended up saying was exactly the opposite of what she intended. 

Let us take the first sentence. 

Men are like Bluetooth: He is connected to you when you are nearby, but searches for other devices when you are away.

Well nothing wrong in that. She said absolutely correct stuff. The blunder lies in the second sentence. 

 

Women are like Wi-Fi: She sees all available devices but connects to the strongest one...

 Oooops!!!! Comparing women to wifi is a great problem. She should have said WIFI adapter which connects to the strongest signal. But she ended up saying Wi-Fi. A wi-fi actually sends out SIGNALS in all directions and is available to all devices at the same time too. !!! That is a blunder. Coz that makes the sentence mean like "women send out signals to all and connects to the strongest one."

Also it means that women can engage and disengage with different devices. Also it means that she can connect to multiple devices at the same time unlike Bluetooth (read MEN). 

Now I pointed it to it. But I made some mistakes. 

1. I pointed it out on a social networking site. Big mistake. People will generally not take these things lightly and a that too a lady!!! no way. 

2. I tried to make sense out of a nonsensical stuff. This was a big mistake. Never fight with a lady over something that makes sense to her, irrespective of its logical stability.

Now I have given up. Coz I now know it is difficult, nay Impossible, to see the technical error.

Nonethe less I am having fun understanding various types of egos at work.

 

NOTE: Me writing this is also a form of ego. I am frustrated of trying to make sense to her. So i thought making this public may massage my ego too. WoW never knew ego can be like this as well. 

       

Religious dogmas and rituals : Pseudo-Science

I have a bad habit of running into trouble with the guardians of religions. More than that I run into my own parents and family members, and some friends, and other people who know me (and vice versa). Everybody seems to have closed their eyes of logic and rational thinking. There used to be a time when people knew that Sun travelled on Seven Horses around the Earth. Now we know what the truth is. Unfortunately most people still believe that Sun goes around the Earth. 

Now look at this.

I am a bengali Brahmin by birth. During my baptism ceremony (janeyu sanskar) I was told that for the next one year "you are not to eat, chicken, mutton, eggs, onion, garlic and masoor dal". But "you can eat fish". That I could never figure out why was fish exempted. It is more alive than an egg. Most eggs released in the market are unfertilised eggs and hence eating them would not KILL any life.  But a fish is a wholesome living creature, then how can it not be counted in Non-Veg??? I remained puzzled. I asked my grandma and got an answer, "it is vegetable". No offence meant for the bygone soul but even at an age of 13 I figured out she doesn't know the reason.

In fact no one could ever tell me the reason before I myself got hold of it. It is more of a socio-economic compulsion to include fish in vegetables than anything else.

Consider this, bengal is a coastal state with huge amount of water bodies in and around it. It is a rice bowl too. Now that makes rice and fish its staple diet. Even the poorest can afford to eat fish by catching one in the ponds. So it must have occurred to the Bengali Brahmins of bygone era that including an AMMENDMENT IN THE RELIGIOUS BOOK OF DOGMAS on fish being a vegetable will allow pepole to eat it on all days and ceremonies. Citing various atrocious examples and reasons they must have taught the people about fish being very pure and pious and a vegetable. So here we are DOGMAS win over LOGIC. Egg is non-veg but not fish.

The guardians of religions have done more harm to religions and people following it than any good. And the problem is that people still tend to follow those things blindly.

Same goes with various fasts such as navratra.

We all know that fasting is good for our body. Our digestive system gets a break from its routine and heals itself. But that happens in FASTING. Now that means serious fasting. Unfortunately you must visit the shops during these times. VRAT KE NAMAK, VRAT KE CHIPS, VRAT KE AALOO PAKODEY, VRAT KA THIS- AND VRAT KA THAT..... God in the name of fasting people eat like anything ..... they eat more than normal and then they say they are fasting .... now how scientific is that !!!!!

Think for yourself.

Popular Misconception

That day I just happened to ask a very simple question to a group of people. And I was really startled to get the answer.
The question is as follows.
A child in a snowy region created a SNOWMAN out of snow(obviously). Now this kid wanted the snowman to last as long as possible so that the snowman should not melt easily. He sought help from two people (lets say) A, and B
A:- Drape the snowman in a jacket from head to toe and it will not melt.
B:- A has gone crazy. If you drape the snowman in a jacket the snowman will melt and so just keep it in open and it will last long.
My question was: Whose option should the child take? A or B?

Amazingly enough, if I asked this question to 100 people, 96 of them answered that the option should be B. Most people were and are of the opinion that draping the snowman in a jacket will warm the inside of the jacket thereby resulting in rapid melting of the snowman. Rather is it good to keep the snowman in open.

The real answer is as follows.

"A" is correct. The snowman should be draped in a jacket. The thicker or multi-layered the better.The reason is that jacket or woolens create an insulation around the body. This insulation prevents the outside heat from entering the body but at the same time it doesn't allow the inner energy to escape too thereby creating a thermos flask type condition. This prevents the melting of the snowman as it remains virtually unaffected by the outside fluctuation of temperature.

This is the same case when you must have seen that ICE Chunks by the ice vendors are always covered by saw dust or thick rough clothing.
Some people may say that we feel warm inside the jacket but that warmth is the body warmth and not that the jacket is creating its own.


But a simple question like this threw up a viscious challenge of looking at the popular misconceptions that plague science and day to day life too.

Bhagwan ke naam pe ........ (In the name of God ....)

A few days back I was having an argument about God and the dogmas associated with it. I was shocked to see that God has been reduced to a meaningless cocktail of dogmas and rituals. The meaning of God has been lost somewhere. Strangely enough there are the following types of people I have come across.

1. Religious Fanatics: For these guys God is all about a set of rules that their RELIGION has put forward and anything other than that is nothing short of SIN.

2. Ritualists: These are far more moderate than the Fanatics but then their concept of God is about a super human creature who has single handedly created the universe and all the religions and has laid down some rules which one is supposed to follow or else HE will punish you.

3. Rationalists: Utter non believers in God and point out to recent scientific findings and logic to show that God doesn't exist. For them Religion / Spirituality / God is all a farce.

4. People like me: I can safely call myself Non-Religious but Spiritualist.

I went to the Youth forum of ISKCON just to see what they have to say about God. This incident is true and almost 7 years old. There was a gathering of almost 150 odd guys from all walks of life, both old and young included.
Now there came this Orator who was supposed to give us a talk on Science and Krishna. This guy got down from his Merc in a white Kurta-Pyjama andw as garlanded. I was informed that he is some IITian turned INDUSTRIALIST who has been donating huge sums to ISKCON and has become a BHAKT of Sri Krshna. I understood why was he chosen for the talk.
He started off with a song (totally off beat) which I somehow endured because I wanted to know what he had to say. Then he started with the sentence, "Everything is Krshna. Science is just a farce, an illusion and we must not accept what science tells us".
He pointed out to the Big-Bang theory and said," Have you ever seen a CAR or a WATCH or anything coming out of a bursting cracker???? Then how can you accept that the universe got created from such a bursting thing called the Big-Bang".
I was left aghast. This guy had absolutely no knowledge about science, Physics in particular and he was comparing the BIG-BANG Event to the bursting of a cracker?

I immediately objected which was put aside and the talk continued.

Then he said," I don't understand what is there that science is trying to find out? all our scriptures already tell about everything. Scriptures also tell about the first aeroplane (the Pushpak Vimana) which was in existence much before wright brother made the silly plane.

I objected again and told them that it is unfair to say that since scriptures say about everything means that one should not try to unravel them now?

Even "2001- A space odyssey" by Arthur c Clarke talks of a space station but it took engineers four decades to actually make one. Just because something is written somewhere doesn't mean that all is achieved.

Now that created a furor there with virtually everyone going against me. I stood my ground. I told them point blank that this is a complete waste of time as that Guy was not qualified to speak since he neither knows science nor he knows spirituality. all he knows is what is writen in a couple of books on Krshna and against Science. I left that place but not before challenging that guy to give up everything that the FARCIAL SCIENCE has created including his MERC, his money and even his clothes (I think I went too far that day).
I never went back again.

This incident told me one thing that all that people know is purely bookish and without logic.

Sri Ramakrishna used to say, "Let the disciple test his guru and his own belief in the light of logic and experience before accepting or rejecting anything".

Not many such people are around now a days.

It is a really sad state of affairs.

Hopefully someday people will understand that Science and Spirituality are nothing but the two sides of the same coin and Religion is just a set of rules to effectively follow ones course of life.

FEMALE EGO -- Part 1

DISCLAIMER:::: TO ALL FEMALES WHO ARE READING THIS POST, I AM NOT AGAINST FEMALES IN ANY WAY. THIS POST IS WHAT I HAVE ANALYSED AND UNDERSTOOD ABOUT FEMALES IN THIS SMALL LIFE THAT I HAVE LIVED SO FAR. SO IF YOU FIND IT OFFENSIVE, I AM REALLY SORRY.  IN THIS ARTICLE I AM TALKING ABOUT MOST WOMEN BUT MAY NOT NECESSARILY BE ALL WOMEN.


A simple word EGO can have such gigantic ramifications I never did know, till I came across the most misunderstood, and rightly so, species on this earth--- WOMEN.

People always talk about MALE EGO. But trust me female ego is more dangerous than male ego. And the reason lies in the stealthy nature of female ego.

I will cite some examples.

My friend Anamika (name changed to protect identity) was the first person who made me realise this. I went to meet her once in a restaurant, Bikanerwala, in Delhi. That day she was wearing something which I felt she looked odd in, so I told her frankly my opinion. She smilingly accepted it. But since that day I noticed a change in her behaviour towards me. Then one fine day we met again at the same place and this time I was wearing a red checked shirt. She blasted me like anything. I was just stumped. My mistake was that unnoticed to me I had previously put on the same shirt 3 time before too in our 3 out of 5 previous meetings. And she blasted my dressing sense, my zero color sense and what not. I would have driven to madness had she not blurted out, "YOU DON'T HAVE A PROPER DRESSING SENSE, A PROPER WAY OF CHOOSING COLOR COMBINATION AND YOU DARE TELL ME THAT I WAS NOT LOOKING GOOD IN THAT DRESS...". I realised that this was a tax free high interest return of my comment the other day I made about her clothes. Gosh the time gap was well over two months and she was blasting me now for something like that??? Well that is an example of female ego for you.

The other day I was installing a new parallel switch of the water pump in our home. We have two flats situated on over the other. The top one has a water pump and the bottom one requires more water thatn the top one. Since we remain most of the time in the ground floor flat so we needed a connection for the water pump in the ground floor too. Atleast that is what I thought. Unfortunately my mom who has a flair of hatred towards technology and innovativeness told me not to do this. But when I know something is of collective good I usually go ahead and do it. So I did it. And within a few hours mom realised that I had been correct all along that this new method will ease our lives. Now nearly a month later came a day when no one was upstairs and we required water in the ground floor flat. So I decided to switch on the water pump using our newly installed parallel switch. But the moment I switched it on I figured out that someone has to go upstairs and manually fit the pipe in the tap's mouth before we can start the switch. So I asked m brother to do so. My mom suddenly said, "THIS ALL IS THE FAULT OF THIS SWITCH. I HAD TOLD YOU THEN ITSELF THAT THIS SWITCH IS OF NO USE BUT YOU WON'T LISTEN.......BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH ...." . I walked out of the house.

Women can never forget an insult, or ridicule or even a light hearted joke on them. In the face they may smile and even laugh but inside they will always itch to strike back. And they do that in style.

More later..........

A thought on women empowerment.

I hate injustice and inequality whether meted out to me or anyone else; but specifically against women.

Being a man when I can clearly see that our society is deeply unjust in its way of treating women why can't others see? Specially women themselves???!!!!

My biggest challenge is my own mother. Sorry to say but she at times display the same mental set up which is displayed by the egotistic unjust people of our society in the name of culture and parampara. Trust me this PARAMPARA is one word which has been grossly misused just the way JIHAD has been grossly misused.

The other day I had a big time fight with my mom. And the issue was as usual the rights of my wife. What infuriated me most was that being a woman herself my mom failed badly in upholding the very basic rights that my wife should enjoy.

I sat down calming myself and thinking what to do next. I think somehow the solution lies in making women empowered for upholding their own rights rather than trying to convince men is the real solution.

There should be charter which should read like this.

1. Every woman is first the child of her parents; sister of her siblings and then wife of her husband and at last daughter-in-law of in-laws. That should be always the hierarchy of how a woman should have her rights. And this should not change even after marriage. In fact its real meaning starts after marriage only.

2. A woman is an independent entity and should have the right to voice her opinions as well as refuse what she thinks is unjust or improper which includes sexual advances made by her husband.

3. Most importantly a wife should have a say in every household related matter which generally seems to be a male bastion.

4. Men have to understand that even if a wife is a HOUSEWIFE, that work in itself is one of the most difficult multitasking jobs in the world. Being a housewife is no easy job. It is rather a very thankless job.

5. If a woman after marriage wants to work, she should be supported as mush as possible. Everyone has the right to be self reliant. And the best part is women can actually be amazing home maker cum professional; something men can't even think of becoming ever.

6. Education is not the birth right of males only. Women are equally entitled for it and they can, given proper opportunities, outshine men in every field.

Empowerment starts from our homes. Husbands have an extra responsibility to understand the needs of their wives and work accordingly. It is a husband's responsibility to judge a situation by ANALYSIS and LOGIC and not by what his parents and family has to say. I am not asking husbands to go against their parents but remember what Sri Krishna said in Gita, "In the war of truth and dharma there are only two categories, those who follow dharma and those who are against it. Doesn't matter if they are your family members even."

Same case here. A JIHAD has to be fought. A holy war against age old malpractices and injustices against females and as I have always said, CHARITY HAS TO BEGIN AT HOME.