FEMALE EGO -- Part 1

DISCLAIMER:::: TO ALL FEMALES WHO ARE READING THIS POST, I AM NOT AGAINST FEMALES IN ANY WAY. THIS POST IS WHAT I HAVE ANALYSED AND UNDERSTOOD ABOUT FEMALES IN THIS SMALL LIFE THAT I HAVE LIVED SO FAR. SO IF YOU FIND IT OFFENSIVE, I AM REALLY SORRY.  IN THIS ARTICLE I AM TALKING ABOUT MOST WOMEN BUT MAY NOT NECESSARILY BE ALL WOMEN.


A simple word EGO can have such gigantic ramifications I never did know, till I came across the most misunderstood, and rightly so, species on this earth--- WOMEN.

People always talk about MALE EGO. But trust me female ego is more dangerous than male ego. And the reason lies in the stealthy nature of female ego.

I will cite some examples.

My friend Anamika (name changed to protect identity) was the first person who made me realise this. I went to meet her once in a restaurant, Bikanerwala, in Delhi. That day she was wearing something which I felt she looked odd in, so I told her frankly my opinion. She smilingly accepted it. But since that day I noticed a change in her behaviour towards me. Then one fine day we met again at the same place and this time I was wearing a red checked shirt. She blasted me like anything. I was just stumped. My mistake was that unnoticed to me I had previously put on the same shirt 3 time before too in our 3 out of 5 previous meetings. And she blasted my dressing sense, my zero color sense and what not. I would have driven to madness had she not blurted out, "YOU DON'T HAVE A PROPER DRESSING SENSE, A PROPER WAY OF CHOOSING COLOR COMBINATION AND YOU DARE TELL ME THAT I WAS NOT LOOKING GOOD IN THAT DRESS...". I realised that this was a tax free high interest return of my comment the other day I made about her clothes. Gosh the time gap was well over two months and she was blasting me now for something like that??? Well that is an example of female ego for you.

The other day I was installing a new parallel switch of the water pump in our home. We have two flats situated on over the other. The top one has a water pump and the bottom one requires more water thatn the top one. Since we remain most of the time in the ground floor flat so we needed a connection for the water pump in the ground floor too. Atleast that is what I thought. Unfortunately my mom who has a flair of hatred towards technology and innovativeness told me not to do this. But when I know something is of collective good I usually go ahead and do it. So I did it. And within a few hours mom realised that I had been correct all along that this new method will ease our lives. Now nearly a month later came a day when no one was upstairs and we required water in the ground floor flat. So I decided to switch on the water pump using our newly installed parallel switch. But the moment I switched it on I figured out that someone has to go upstairs and manually fit the pipe in the tap's mouth before we can start the switch. So I asked m brother to do so. My mom suddenly said, "THIS ALL IS THE FAULT OF THIS SWITCH. I HAD TOLD YOU THEN ITSELF THAT THIS SWITCH IS OF NO USE BUT YOU WON'T LISTEN.......BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH ...." . I walked out of the house.

Women can never forget an insult, or ridicule or even a light hearted joke on them. In the face they may smile and even laugh but inside they will always itch to strike back. And they do that in style.

More later..........

A thought on women empowerment.

I hate injustice and inequality whether meted out to me or anyone else; but specifically against women.

Being a man when I can clearly see that our society is deeply unjust in its way of treating women why can't others see? Specially women themselves???!!!!

My biggest challenge is my own mother. Sorry to say but she at times display the same mental set up which is displayed by the egotistic unjust people of our society in the name of culture and parampara. Trust me this PARAMPARA is one word which has been grossly misused just the way JIHAD has been grossly misused.

The other day I had a big time fight with my mom. And the issue was as usual the rights of my wife. What infuriated me most was that being a woman herself my mom failed badly in upholding the very basic rights that my wife should enjoy.

I sat down calming myself and thinking what to do next. I think somehow the solution lies in making women empowered for upholding their own rights rather than trying to convince men is the real solution.

There should be charter which should read like this.

1. Every woman is first the child of her parents; sister of her siblings and then wife of her husband and at last daughter-in-law of in-laws. That should be always the hierarchy of how a woman should have her rights. And this should not change even after marriage. In fact its real meaning starts after marriage only.

2. A woman is an independent entity and should have the right to voice her opinions as well as refuse what she thinks is unjust or improper which includes sexual advances made by her husband.

3. Most importantly a wife should have a say in every household related matter which generally seems to be a male bastion.

4. Men have to understand that even if a wife is a HOUSEWIFE, that work in itself is one of the most difficult multitasking jobs in the world. Being a housewife is no easy job. It is rather a very thankless job.

5. If a woman after marriage wants to work, she should be supported as mush as possible. Everyone has the right to be self reliant. And the best part is women can actually be amazing home maker cum professional; something men can't even think of becoming ever.

6. Education is not the birth right of males only. Women are equally entitled for it and they can, given proper opportunities, outshine men in every field.

Empowerment starts from our homes. Husbands have an extra responsibility to understand the needs of their wives and work accordingly. It is a husband's responsibility to judge a situation by ANALYSIS and LOGIC and not by what his parents and family has to say. I am not asking husbands to go against their parents but remember what Sri Krishna said in Gita, "In the war of truth and dharma there are only two categories, those who follow dharma and those who are against it. Doesn't matter if they are your family members even."

Same case here. A JIHAD has to be fought. A holy war against age old malpractices and injustices against females and as I have always said, CHARITY HAS TO BEGIN AT HOME.