We all are living in a male dominated society. A society which for arbitrary reasons thinks that males are superior to females and females should be treated, more or less, like slaves. In this society it is important to give birth to a boy than a girl as the boy is responsible to take forward the clan, "vansh". And combined with other evils like dowry and the age old fact that girl, after marriage, will go to the husband's house, makes girls a very expensive "commodity" of a household. This is another reason why female foeticide and infanticide is so high in our society.
I have been, like many of my like minded people, appalled at this entire turn of events. I thought that my parents are not of that mentality, but alas!!! i am so very wrong.
The other day I had a heated argument with my mom regarding the inclusion of surnames in names. Mom said that it is important that we should have a boy child rather than a girl because my father's clan has to be taken forward. I was amazed at that stuff and I was forced to ask whether she thought that we are a species of dinosaurs on the verge of extinction and we need to preserve our clan!!!!
I finally figured out the root cause of all these problems. SURNAME.
After marriage girls are supposed to change their surnames and adopt the boy's. This way her identity is being lost. And boy's clan will move forward.
A boy in the family is must to take forward the surname, clan. It doesn't matter whether scientifically we are taking forward our clan with the help of our GENES or not. SURNAMEs it is seems are more important than GENES.!!!
Surnames also indicates whether I am a brahmin or a dalit. A SHUBHAM is not indicative of my caste but SHUBHAM CHAKRABORTY or SHUBHAM CHAKLADAR spills the beans.
And finally, as someone pointed out, even a female dominated society is not good enough as the problems will persist in an entirely new avatar.
So the need of hour is not to have either a male dominated or a female dominated society; rather a balanced society.
And I strongly believe giving up of surnames and going just by the First name would be much beneficial.
Imagine a society which just have names for people and no surnames. The following things will be remedied.
1. Caste based discrimination would be on the edge as NAMES alone will not tell you about the caste.
2. The problem of taking forward of clan will get abolished automatically. No SURNAMES and hence, none to be carry forward either.
3. Females will no longer have to worry about a surname. They will be free to marry anyone of their will specially in the absence of the direct know how of a person's caste related background in the absence of a SURNAME.
4. Female foeticide and infanticide will definitely come down as the need to take forward the SURNAME based clan system will no longer be there. It will be purely scientific and GENE based clan system in which both males and females will have equal share.
But the problem is how to do it.
Government will not do it. The reason is simple. Politicians are narrow minded, have regressive thoughts and depend on vote bank politics.
They are corrupt and what not and expecting them to establish something scientific and logical is beyond question.
We ourselves will have to do it. It should be started off as a fashion and we may not be able to achieve our goals in one generation, but we will be able to do it over a period of time.
Guys of my generation and all those who concur with me kindly take note of this and do the need full. There are guys of my generation group as well s others who will not concur with me and they will show the world that they are still inherently patriarchal in nature. Some are highly qualified and are working at big places and yet have a narrow social view point. I can excuse them. For they know not what they are doing.
But for the rest of you, kindly do something.
I have been, like many of my like minded people, appalled at this entire turn of events. I thought that my parents are not of that mentality, but alas!!! i am so very wrong.
The other day I had a heated argument with my mom regarding the inclusion of surnames in names. Mom said that it is important that we should have a boy child rather than a girl because my father's clan has to be taken forward. I was amazed at that stuff and I was forced to ask whether she thought that we are a species of dinosaurs on the verge of extinction and we need to preserve our clan!!!!
I finally figured out the root cause of all these problems. SURNAME.
After marriage girls are supposed to change their surnames and adopt the boy's. This way her identity is being lost. And boy's clan will move forward.
A boy in the family is must to take forward the surname, clan. It doesn't matter whether scientifically we are taking forward our clan with the help of our GENES or not. SURNAMEs it is seems are more important than GENES.!!!
Surnames also indicates whether I am a brahmin or a dalit. A SHUBHAM is not indicative of my caste but SHUBHAM CHAKRABORTY or SHUBHAM CHAKLADAR spills the beans.
And finally, as someone pointed out, even a female dominated society is not good enough as the problems will persist in an entirely new avatar.
So the need of hour is not to have either a male dominated or a female dominated society; rather a balanced society.
And I strongly believe giving up of surnames and going just by the First name would be much beneficial.
Imagine a society which just have names for people and no surnames. The following things will be remedied.
1. Caste based discrimination would be on the edge as NAMES alone will not tell you about the caste.
2. The problem of taking forward of clan will get abolished automatically. No SURNAMES and hence, none to be carry forward either.
3. Females will no longer have to worry about a surname. They will be free to marry anyone of their will specially in the absence of the direct know how of a person's caste related background in the absence of a SURNAME.
4. Female foeticide and infanticide will definitely come down as the need to take forward the SURNAME based clan system will no longer be there. It will be purely scientific and GENE based clan system in which both males and females will have equal share.
But the problem is how to do it.
Government will not do it. The reason is simple. Politicians are narrow minded, have regressive thoughts and depend on vote bank politics.
They are corrupt and what not and expecting them to establish something scientific and logical is beyond question.
We ourselves will have to do it. It should be started off as a fashion and we may not be able to achieve our goals in one generation, but we will be able to do it over a period of time.
Guys of my generation and all those who concur with me kindly take note of this and do the need full. There are guys of my generation group as well s others who will not concur with me and they will show the world that they are still inherently patriarchal in nature. Some are highly qualified and are working at big places and yet have a narrow social view point. I can excuse them. For they know not what they are doing.
But for the rest of you, kindly do something.
