Apart from the eternal truth that every human being would one day meet death; I recently stumbled upon two other eternal truths. Yes, two more. And probably these two are greater truths than the truth of death itself. This truth can be felt and understood only by a husband, and no one else. So in case you are not a husband, which means either you have not married yet or are a divorcee or a widower, you may not accept this fact; hence, stay away. For ladies, this is one fact with which 99.99% married women will agree, and the ones to disagree are the ones who have never tasted the in-law's relations.
Well you must be wondering what those two eternal truths might be. They are
1. No mother-in-law can ever agree with her daughter-in-law
2. No daughter-in-law can ever agree with her mother-in-law.
And between them is the ultimate fool created by mother nature- Husband.
There are many cases of daughter-in-laws (hereby referred as DIL) being subjected to cruelty by mother-in-laws(hereby referred to as MIL) and husbands. These cases come forward when either the DIL is dead (or has been killed) or the DIL takes up enough courage to protest and lodges a case or walks out. At times there are cases of MILs who have been killed or rendered homeless by their DILs.
But there is a third category of people who are at loss from both ends. Mother and Wife, the two tug boats continuously keep on pulling the Husband towards opposite ends. The Husband, if of level head and mild mannered, gets badly stuck.
If he goes with the wife then the world stamps him to be cruel towards his parents who have toiled hard to bring him up and blah blah blah .....
If he goes with the mother then the world and supreme court pulls him up and even throws him in jail for cruelty towards his wife and blah blah blah.
So where is the husband supposed to go when caught in the crossfire between Wife and Mother??
There doesn't seem to be any rule or law in justice system for that. Some of you might say that it is better to be diplomatic. But I am sorry to tell you that diplomacy fails when it comes to Mother-Wife war.
The role of a husband is somewhat like a punching bag. Get punched from DIL as well as MIL. No matter how hard you try you can never really escape.
There does come times in between which are of relative calmness but don't get carried away by it, you see there is always a lull before the storm.
Well you must be wondering what those two eternal truths might be. They are
1. No mother-in-law can ever agree with her daughter-in-law
2. No daughter-in-law can ever agree with her mother-in-law.
And between them is the ultimate fool created by mother nature- Husband.
There are many cases of daughter-in-laws (hereby referred as DIL) being subjected to cruelty by mother-in-laws(hereby referred to as MIL) and husbands. These cases come forward when either the DIL is dead (or has been killed) or the DIL takes up enough courage to protest and lodges a case or walks out. At times there are cases of MILs who have been killed or rendered homeless by their DILs.
But there is a third category of people who are at loss from both ends. Mother and Wife, the two tug boats continuously keep on pulling the Husband towards opposite ends. The Husband, if of level head and mild mannered, gets badly stuck.
If he goes with the wife then the world stamps him to be cruel towards his parents who have toiled hard to bring him up and blah blah blah .....
If he goes with the mother then the world and supreme court pulls him up and even throws him in jail for cruelty towards his wife and blah blah blah.
So where is the husband supposed to go when caught in the crossfire between Wife and Mother??
There doesn't seem to be any rule or law in justice system for that. Some of you might say that it is better to be diplomatic. But I am sorry to tell you that diplomacy fails when it comes to Mother-Wife war.
The role of a husband is somewhat like a punching bag. Get punched from DIL as well as MIL. No matter how hard you try you can never really escape.
There does come times in between which are of relative calmness but don't get carried away by it, you see there is always a lull before the storm.
